After our daughter was born.....

After our daughter was born we both worked but it was always my responsiblity to be something more.... I went to the University full time and took the kids to school in the morning while working full time. I was exhausted but my mother in law watched the kids one night a week so I got time with my husband, but lord knows what he was really doing during all those times since I was so trusting I didn't check at all. Then the loser got fired and couldn't find another job. I went in the military as an officer after I finished my degree because I knew I could put food on the table and a roof over our heads. When I went to training he signed his rights to his son away, (his son was 6 at this point) she wanted to fight him visiting at the base and my husband was tired of court and drama so instead of dealing with it he quit. I lost my son because as a step-mother I have no rights even though I was there since he was born. I was angry about this and moved with my daughter alone to our new base. He finally followed because he begged and said he thought it was the right thing to do for everyone involved.

I hate my husband, really

My husband and I married when I was 18 years old. He missed my 18th birthday because he didn't want to meet my parents. He had not finished high school but he was so cute, like a puppy just adorable. He was funny and sweet and I felt like we were very much in love. He moved in with me quickly, after only 3 months of dating but we were happy. He had been there 3 months when a one night stand of his (or so he said at the time) served him with adoption papers, she was 8 months along. Ok, so we weren't together when it happened, no cheating, but he and I talked and he wanted to keep the baby. He thought that because we had our own apartment we might get custody if we got married. He said he wanted to have a family with me and loved me. We got married but didn't win custody. This broke him. He was sad but then wanted us to have a child together. We had visitation with his son and had a daughter a year after we were married. I think he wanted her to fill a void he felt after not having his son with him full time, but it didn't work. I was always a good wife, letting him go out with friends, etc. But I found out that on a "guys night out" only 3 weeks after our daughter was born he was at a skanky strip club. That son of a bitch spent money he could have spent on our daughter on those loose women. It still makes my blood boil 11 years later!